Dad and Fiancée Exclude His Daughter from Their Wedding After She Bought a Dress and Shoes for It

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Recently, a teenage girl shared that her dad and his fiancée excluded her from their wedding, explaining the heartbreaking reasons behind it.

“I (F18) was always pretty close to my dad. Closer to my mom, but I often visited my dad (about 3-4 times a week). A few years ago, he started dating Anna. Anna and I always got along, and when my dad proposed, I was happy. Anna seemed like she would be a great stepmom,” she began her post.

The original poster (OP) said she was excited and looking forward to the wedding. She bought a dress and shoes, but then her dad and Anna told her they needed to talk.


“A few weeks before the wedding, after I had bought everything (dress, shoes, etc.), my dad and Anna said they needed to talk to me. Anna and my dad decided to have a child-free wedding, which I understand, especially for young kids.

“Well, it turns out child-free means no one under 18. On the day of the wedding, I was still going to be 17, so therefore, I wasn’t allowed to be at the wedding because Anna wanted to stay true to the child-free rule, even for the daughter of the groom and her soon-to-be stepdaughter.”

Devastated, OP told her mom, who was as heartbroken as her daughter. To cheer her up, the mom took her on vacation. Meanwhile, she told the rest of the family what had happened. Understandably, most of them were shocked and angry.

Later, OP posted birthday pictures on Facebook and wrote, “I’m so glad my dad and Anna didn’t allow me at their wedding since I was under 18; I feel more mature since yesterday.”

“The family was freaking out, asking if that was true, and bashing my dad and Anna. I later got a bunch of texts from my dad and Anna calling me immature and selfish, saying that’s why I was too immature to be at a wedding. Some friends said I was kind of an AH for doing that and should have just let it go.”


Fellow redditors shared their opinions and agreed that OP wasn’t in the wrong for telling the family what her dad did to her.

“NTA. What kind of man doesn’t have his own child at his wedding? Anyway, they made the choice, and if they believe it was the right choice, they should have no issue with it being publicly known. Plus, people might assume you weren’t there because you disapproved of his new wife or chose a vacation instead. Ensuring people know WHY you weren’t there saves your own reputation,” one person commented.

“The no children rule was made for you. I’m sorry, but let that sink in. She made that rule to keep you out. You now know where you stand in their marriage… you don’t. I’m so sorry. NTA. I personally think it was EPIC. Harsh but epic. They deserved more than that. I would even update it with pictures of their texts,” another added.